Sunday, November 7, 2021

Problems and Issues

 

Oct. 9 – Laura’s been at my mom’s now a week and no one even called me! She had moved in with my mom, because mom is 82 and pretty much bed-ridden.  Laura has never called me since May – they came out to visit in Aug., I never got a call – found out from mom when they were arriving. Didn’t know she was planning on moving out here to move in with mom – until mom told me a week before the supposed arrival! Found out from mom, they were in Colorado the weekend of Sept. 25th (moved from Indiana), kept waiting for a call that she arrived, finally called mom myself yesterday and found out she’d been there well over a week at that point! I said, “How come no one called me?” “Oh,” mom, said, “I didn’t know I needed to!” Wow, really? That’s how much they really care about me.

When we went down to the valley the first week of Aug.(when they came to visit) to meet Laura and the boys (I hadn’t seen any of them since 2016), they were sooooo cold to me! Like we were barely acquaintances rather than family! They were so cold-hearted – no family love or even a hint of caring whether or not I was there. They never called me ‘mom’ or ‘grandma’ – except Laura said ‘mom’ once. No hug, no kiss, no “gee, we missed you.” NOTHING! Cold as Ice! Even Tamara’s kids called me grandma several times when they came up to go swimming – right in front of them! Nothing from them! Barely even said ‘bye’ to use when we left. I cannot believe that they treat me that way!

Nov. 4 – we finally had a parent meeting for our school last night. (we started school Aug. 23 with 17 kids, 3rd - 11th grade).   I was so upset to know what lie had been going around about me … for a few weeks now, I had been hearing whispering from both parents and kids, my name popping up, etc., but no one would tell me anything! A few weeks ago, a parent accused me of losing her kid’s papers/work and not recording it – doing so on purpose even! I told her that was not the case, that I record everything that I grade, but I’m not the only one doing the grading! And I’m sure no one would not record it on purpose! In fact, I told her, at the beginning of the year when kids bombed tests/quizzes, Denesa and I agreed that we would give them another chance – we didn’t record the grade, but gave the papers back to the kids telling them to find the answers in their books, write it beside the wrong answers, send it back in, and we would give them a higher grade. This was all being done because the kids have almost no memory skills at all – we’re trying to help them by teaching them study habits and skills (most of the kids are at least 2 years behind in learning). In fact, I even started taking various kids aside and showed them how to organize a notebook (3 ring binder) with each category, put their quizzes and tests in there WITH the correct answers, so as to use these as study materials for future tests – since all are accumulative. As I was taking the 8th grade boy back to the cafeteria to do exactly that, a 10th grade girl mouthed off to me – told me I had no business taking him away (he was literally laying on the floor right before I got over there, messing around, annoying the other 8th grade girl) when he had work to do. I told her was I was doing and she said in a very sassy way, “you’re not going to take me to do that!”

I do not understand why those kids are so sassy to me when I’ve gone out of my way since May to help them – with their mother’s request no less!

Anyway, at last night’s meeting, I finally found out that the 8th grade boy had told his mom that while in the cafeteria, I told him, “no body must love you, you must not have anyone at home that loves you.” I was so shocked! I never even think that way, let alone say something like that to someone! She actually looked at me and all but called me a liar when I said I never said anything like that.

What gets me is that I volunteer my time, time I’d rather be sitting at home reading my books, doing my artwork, or whatever. I really don’t want to be teaching school again, but I’m doing what God told me to do! A whole year ago, the situation with these kids so bothered me that I was in constant prayer about the situation with the kids – their lack of learning, schools that failed them, children walking by with nothing to do, the lies they were believing, etc. God wouldn’t let me go about this whole issue – told me to start a school and when I prayed over the buildings in January, I specifically prayed over 503 Spruce St and told God, “if you want me to start a school, give me this building to do so!” and He did!!! A total miracle and I know God wants this school

I’ve always been an advocate for kids, building them up, not tearing them down! For someone to accuse me of saying such is horrible! I never would have said such a thing. All the other parents told me they thought Denesa and I were wonderful to have started this school and they were behind us all the way. Either way, we’ve lost 5 kids this past week due to these lies and this poison that’s been going around. What gets me is that the parents are teaching these kids how to quit rather than working out the issues (all they had to do was talk to us!) – Tuesday, all the kids knew that the 8th grade girls weren’t planning on coming back – it was their last day – but no one told us! One of their fathers was even there Tuesday volunteering and he never even said anything! Just turned in his key to one of the other parents and snuck outside! Total cowards! If this school wasn’t working out for them, all they had to do was say something! Not one word! I don’t even know why … was it because of the lies that were being told about me? Was it because the 8th graders were still so far behind? They were both late starters and it took forever to get their books mailed to us, plus being without the video guides were a problem? They were slowly catching up. So what was it? As for that one parent and her kids – she taught the kids to be sassy and talk back to the adults – not just me, but the other adults as well. No one should put up with mean, sassy kids! They do need to apologize before they come back – but no, she's is keeping them home now and won’t even talk to anyone!

I don’t need these kinds of headaches, but God told me to start a school ….

Nov. 7 – I got a call from my granddaughter yesterday!!! What a surprise and a major blessing! She said she’d been wanting to call me for some time now. A few days ago, I guess she called, I didn’t recognize the number (TX) and didn’t answer. There was a message, but I couldn’t really understand it, sounded like a little kid, and something about calling her back if I wanted to. Anyway, I had no idea who it was and thought maybe a kid got a hold of parent’s phone and made a random call, so I ignored it. Yesterday, the phone rang, I picked it up in time to see a Texas number, I started to put it down and it left a voice message, so I started to listen to it when my phone rang again. It was her! Such a surprise. She said her mom was in the other room talking to her father on the phone and she was using the land line to call me. I didn’t ask how she got my number or if her mother knew she had called me. She told me a bit about herself – she was so excited to talk to me. She loves horses and gets to ride one, she loves looking at horses when they drive around – I guess there are many of them around. She also loves Science and loves to draw. I told her to e-mail me (I gave her my e-mail) and take pictures of her drawings and send them to me. I told her we’d stay in touch – she was very insistent and asked what my schedule was and when was a good time to call, etc.

I do wish her mom would call me and tell me why she won’t or hasn’t talked to me in almost 7 years …